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這就引出了我的第一條原則，也是最重要的原則：

This brings me to my first and most important principle:

獨立思考，并保證頭腦極度開放

THINK FOR YOURSELF WHILE BEING RADICALLY OPEN-MINDED

回顧自己的人生旅途，我現在明白，時間就像一條河流，推著我們前行，途中會與現實相遇，需要我們做出決策。

Looking back on my own journey, I can now see that time is like a river that carries us forward into our encounters with reality that require us to make decisions.

我們無法停止前行，也無法回避現實。

We can’t stop the movement down this river and we can’t avoid the encounters.

我們只能以最好的方式應對現實。

We can only approach them in the best possible way.

一生中，你會遇到無數件事，需要做無數的決定。決定的質量將決定你的生活質量。

好的決定會帶給你好的結果，糟糕的決定則會傷害你。

In your lifetime you will have millions of encounters that will require you to make millions of decisions. The quality of your decision making will determine the quality of your life.

Good decisions will reward you with good outcomes and bad decisions will hurt you.

如果你夠聰明，你所遇到的事將教會你現實是如何運作的，并教給你一些原則，以更好地應對現實。

If you’re smart, these encounters will teach you how reality works and will give you principles for dealing with your realities well.

起初，我并沒有這些原則。我是從一生的經歷當中獲得了這些原則——主要是通過犯錯誤和反思錯誤。

I didn’t start out with my principles. I acquired them over a lifetime... mostly from making mistakes and reflecting on them.

從我還是孩子的時候開始，我就奮力追求自己想要的東西……

Ever since I was a kid I ran after the things I wanted…

跌倒了……

...crashed…

爬起來，接著跑……

...got up and ran again...

再次跌倒。

...and crashed again.

每次跌倒，我都吸取教訓……

Each time I crashed, I learned something...

變得更厲害……

...got better...

也就更少跌倒。

...and crashed less.

通過不斷跌倒—反思—積累經驗—繼續前進，我學會去享受這個過程，包括跌倒本身。

我還學會把每次遇到的問題都看作一個謎題。如果我能破解謎題，就會得到寶石作為獎勵。

這個謎題就是“下次遇到這種情況，我該怎么做”，而寶石就是在將來對我有益的一條原則。

我的原則就是這樣積累下來的。我把它們寫下來，并不斷完善。

我建議你也這樣做。

By doing that over and over again I learned to love this process, even the crashing part of it.

I also learned to view problems like puzzles that would give me gems if I could solve them.

The puzzle was “what should I do in this situation next time?” and the gem I would get by solving it was a principle that would help me in the future.

That is how I got my principles. I wrote them down and modified them over time.

I recommend that you do that, too.

這個過程教會了我一條最基本的原則，那就是……

This process taught me one of my most fundamental principles, which is that...

要想做出好的決定，知道真相是什么，至關重要。

KNOWING WHAT IS TRUE IS ESSENTIAL FOR MAKING GOOD DECISIONS

知道真相是什么，也就是知道現實是如何運行的。為了成功，我們必須遵循自然法則，這些自然法則并不是由人類創造的，但如果我們能理解這些自然法則，就能利用它們來實現自己的目標。

By knowing what is true, I mean knowing how reality works. People didn’t create the laws of nature that we have to live by in order to be successful, but if we can understand these laws we can use them to achieve our goals.

這讓我成為一個超級現實的人：擁抱現實并妥善應對現實，而不是否定現實，還抱怨現實不如自己的意。

This makes me a hyperrealist: someone who embraces reality and works with it well as it is — not someone who wishes it were different and complains that it is not to their liking.

這就引出了我的第三條原則：

That brings me to my third principle:

夢想+現實+決心=成功的生活

DREAMS + REALITY + DETERMINATION= A SUCCESSFUL LIFE

換句話說，如果你能一直專注于實現自己的夢想，主動去理解對你有影響的現實，找到應對現實的方法，并且有決心付諸實踐，那么你就會學到通往成功的原則。

In other words, if you keep focused on achieving your dreams, take responsibility for understanding the realities that affect you and how to deal with them well, and do that with determination, you will learn principles that will give you a successful life.

那么，什么是成功的生活呢？

So what is a successful life？

我們每個人都必須自己決定什么是成功的生活。我無所謂你是想成為“宇宙的主宰”……還是想悠然度日……還是有其他追求。我真的無所謂。

We each have to decide for ourselves what it is. I don’t care whether you want to be a “Master of the Universe”...or to live under a palm tree...or anything else. I really don’t.

你想要什么完全取決于你自己。我只是想讓你快樂、健康，自己進化的同時，也為人類進化做出貢獻。

What you want is up to you. I just want you to be happy and healthy, having your own great evolution while contributing to evolution.

然而，無論選擇哪條道路，你都必須去擁抱現實……

However, whatever path you choose, you must embrace your realities...

尤其是那些你但愿從未發生的現實。

...especially the ones you wish weren’t true.

一開始，我的問題、錯誤和弱點讓我很痛苦，主要是因為我陷入了不想面對它們的情緒。

At first, my problems, mistakes, and weaknesses caused me a lot of pain, mostly because I was stuck wishing I didn’t have them.

后來，我意識到這些痛苦是一種信號，提醒我需要反思自己的現狀，以及反思如何最好地應對現實。

After a while, I learned that these pains were messages that were signaling that I needed to reflect on my realities and how to best deal with them.

那時我才明白:

That’s when I learned that:

痛苦 +反思=進步

PAIN + REFLECTION= PROGRESS

認識到這些，我發現通向成功需要遵循“五步流程”。

Discovering these things made me see that being successful is just a matter of following the 5-Step Process.